#DearErica, Ghanaian, Nigerian


My baby, my heart, my star girl. I still haven’t been able to figure out how exactly you captured my heart, but you have it, completely, and I don’t even want it back. I love you so much that it baffles me. Seeing your smile on my screen for 49 days filled me with such joy and light that I will forever be grateful to you. For me, it’s always, always your tenderness, your softness, your pure, clean heart. I’ve always believed that being a hard guy was the surest way to protect myself, but you came and showed me the utter strength in vulnerability. You embody the power in radical softness. Where people would normally try to hide emotions in shame, you showed yours fully and said shame where? I love your total lack of inhibition and your dedication to enjoyment, you are a baby girl for life. I love that you are not nice (because niceness is a performative and hollow action), but you are incredibly kind. I love that you’re a clearing and forwarding agent, and you do it without malice.  I love your insane sex appeal, girl, nobody do pass you! I love that you have the most amazing, sexiest moan! I love your vibe, that your dancing face, how hype you get for every damn song! I love that you have no filter, I love that you have not one iota of shame in you, I love that you are brave, I love that you are so open and honest and raw. I never want you to change, to lose these parts of yourself, no matter what the future holds. I want you to conquer the world and still be the sweet, kind, bad bitch you are.

Know that I pray for you. Know that you have us the Elites, a family ready to do ANYTHING for you, just say the word. I pray that God’s blessings will constantly surround you. Oil dey your head my babe, and everything your hands touch will turn to gold. Greatness is in your future.

When I chose you, I said that I don’t stan nonsense, and you have never, not once, let me down. You changed my life, because radical softness is my way now. I carry your matter on my head. In my heart you are my sister, my love, and it will remain so till the last day. I love you my star girl, Erica Ngozi Nlewedim.

From Naaki, Ghana/Nigeria.